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Depression and Heart Disease


[calming music] We’ll see if I spill this one guys! Good
morning my beautiful friends and welcome to Saturday! I hope the weekend is
treating you well, I’m really excited to bring this to you guys because it has
some cool surprises in it. I wanted to go through like presents or things that are
good to give to people who are going into surgery who are dealing with
chronic illness or pain or just like really sick because there are like
things that are commonly given and sent which are super super nice and super
awesome like flowers or chocolate or cards and those have always brightened
my day there have been things that are more specific that I did the email
lately if you’re looking for something good to give someone who is about to go
through a major surgery or like I said dealing with something more chronic here
are my recommendation so number one kind notes you guys have seen me talk about
these before I was given this by my friend Erin and I’ll show you what these
are all about now the reason why I really really like these is because it’s
something that I could look forward to every day so in these tiny little
envelopes you will find really really cute little sayings like this one I am
in the right place at the right time doing the right thing and I know that
some of this might seem cheesy some people but honestly like reading that
and thinking about in the morning and thinking that okay well I’m in a lot of
pain right now I’m recovering from surgery or I’m sick or whatever but this
is where I am I am in the right place at the right time doing the right thing I
just need to focus on today and that’s it was really really uplifting to me and
something I’m super excited about with this is that I reached out to kind notes
to ask if they would be willing to partner with me for this video I am
getting absolutely nothing from this they want you guys to know that but they
have been so so so so kind to offer to give you guys two of these jars so if
you want to comment below and then like their page on the Instagram its kind of
notes at kind notes that’s all you have to do enter
and I all announce the winners on Monday you can send this to yourself or to a
relative a friend a family member someone struggling with something and
the cool thing is that they cover a wide range of topics it doesn’t have to be
someone who’s sick if you just need encouragement you’re just going through
something or anything like that their notes are a super cute and B cover a
really wide range of topics also super cool if you enter team Joe and check out
in the discount code section you’ll get through T percent off so that’s really
awesome again I don’t get anything from that
it’s just 50% off for you guys I feel really bad destroying this poor
puppy but he just tastes so good so I know that I told you that I’ve recovered
from at least ten ankle surgeries wrist surgery a knee surgery heart surgery so
I’ve had my fair share of surgery recoveries you would think I would have
figured this out before then having a fridge within arm’s reach because that
was recovering on this couch right here has been the most helpful thing during
this surgery recovery so if you or someone know is going to be out for a
while like on a couch in bed anything like that for more than a week having a
mini fridge close by is just been such a gift because then I’m not but my husband
to get me water all the time it’s right here that way I’m also not putting
myself in danger trying to hop up the stairs there which you know I still do
cuz I need coffee but on bad days and especially when I was first recovering
from surgery I didn’t actually have to move really at all I’d have to give to
go to the bathroom and that was it so this was a huge handy-dandy investment
I think this fridge was like a hundred bucks but you can definitely find
smaller ones for cheaper definitely worth it so it looks like Sadie and
Sadie’s tennis ball are gonna join us for this next shot let’s see if she can
catch it let’s see if she can catch it yes good girl okay so the next thing
that I would recommend over Sadie’s chomping is good ice packs and here’s
why a lot of people just use ice which is awesome it’s super effective however
for recovering from surgeries injuries or just having chronic pain ice can
really help but having ice it’s easy to put on and lasts longer than just
melting ice in a ziplock bag which can also leak and get really messy is
incredibly helpful it’s also a lot easier to change out and to keep on with
velcro straps like this like this one from Ferris therap Act I think
I said I found this on Amazon I’ll just provide the link to where I found on
Amazon I have I think three or four of these now having a variety of these
kinds of ice packs it was really helpful as opposed to just trying to keep
filling ice cube trays so I’m kind of cheating and working to recommendations
into one but along the same lines having a really good heating pack is super
super super super helpful and this one is electric or electronic
electric we’re gonna go with that it just plugs in to my outlet right next to
me I don’t have to worry about like heating it up with a microwave or
anything like that a lot of people use like rice bags or stuff like that again
works really well but if you’re sick if you’re not feeling good if you’ve got a
migraine if you’re recovering from surgery if you’re on crutches it’s
really hard to move back and forth and so having something that’s right here
you don’t have to move to use it works really well for me the ones that I have
in particular by peer enrichment they have worked fantastically for me again
not sponsored at all but they turn off after two hours if you want them to they
have different heating levels and they have enough like space to actually heat
whatever you need it but the reason why I so strongly recommend these to anyone
who is recovering from surgery dealing with chronic illness chronic pain or
knows anyone who is is because if you’re laid up for a long time if your injury
needs ice that still means that you’re staying in one place in other parts of
your body gets sore other parts of your body hurt like I have chronic neck
issues and lamed all the time makes us worse so for like the first three weeks
of surgery I was pretty much on the couch 24/7 so I had this on my neck
often because he helps that or your back starts getting sore the hot and cold to
change back and forth with has been really helpful to having good products
instead of having to go back and forth between like the microwave and ice cube
trays is so helpful and really a gift to have so what’s this you may ask well
this is pugsy he is not a fourth dog he is a perfect pet if you look closely
actually breathe now I realize that may be creepy to some people but sure Mia
it’s actually really relaxing to watch my mom got this for me in a little shop
and I’ve linked the website where you can find them down below they’re really
really calming to watch they just sit there and they bring
and you don’t have to take care of them so it’s like having a pet it’s not
really like having a pet but it’s kind of like having a pet but watching
something cute and soft breathe next to you is really relaxing and so they’re
about 40 bucks I believe and they’re a great gift to give to yourself or
someone you know who is sick or having surgery the last thing that I would
recommend is an audible subscription I have had this for myself for about two
years now it’s $14 a month or I think about 25
I’ll link in the description down below but this is basically just audiobooks
you get one audiobook a month for the lower price or two for the higher price
I end up going through way more than just one a month and listen do all
different kinds of things but I’m right now listening to girl wash your face
which is by Rachel Hollis I didn’t really expect to like this book but I
like it a lot more than I thought it would the reason why I strongly
recommend audiobooks is I mean of course it gives you a chance to learn something
new but it also gives you a break from just like constant screen time you know
if I’m recovering from something or if I’m laid up if I’m not feeling good I
end up watching a lot of TV movies of shows things like that and it’s a good
break from that also as a side note you may wonder why I didn’t just recommend
books in general first of all books are awesome buy people books or get yourself
books I love them but when I was initially recovering from surgery I was
way too out of it to actually like focus and read words on a page so if someone
is really not doing well they’re not feeling great if you’re not doing well
if you’re not feeling great I found that books were a little too
challenging for me like for the first three weeks to a month so audiobooks
were the way to go also just a quick update for everyone who is asking my leg
is okay I went to the doctor about that access or sister whatever it is weird
though weird thing is it’s not actually any of the above it’s really irritated
it’s really swollen it’s not getting better and he said just to like stay off
of it keep compression on it do some massage and hope that it gets better
I can’t have my leg recast it I can’t walk on my cross leg leg I cannot do
anything on it until it gets better which is frustrating I’m not gonna lie
everything is just like stopped there’s no forward movement but everything is
temporary right I know that I know that it’s going
a better one way or another he said that surgery could be on the table for it
like if it doesn’t get better but we’re not gonna go there right now like that’s
not gonna happen fingers crossed hopefully it will get
better just like me taking good care of it and I will take good care of it
because I want to get back to things as soon as possible please enjoy the rest
of your Saturday as my friends and like I said I put links to everything I
mentioned in the description box below if you want to check it out if you’re
interested I love you guys thanks for watching I’ll talk to you soon – bye! -Jo


  1. Jo!! This is such a helpful video first of all. Second of all, I love your tattoos. And I want tattoos. But I’m worried I won’t like them for the rest of my life. Did you feel this way?/is this normal for first timers? Or is this a sign that I shouldn’t get tattoos?😂

  2. Would love to enter the contest, it would be really awesome to have little daily notes to lift my mental and emotional health because I suffer with depression and other mental health things but I am completely blind and would need the notes in braille and I don’t know if that is something they could do or would be willing to do

  3. love your t-shirt 
    + The audio books are a really good gift indeed. I found myself feeling too weak to keep my eyes open and look at things. So being somewhere in between awake and asleep with your mind is being occupied, is really nice! I used to recomend people to make a music compilation, but these days people have internet in the hospital maybe 😉 or at home. Another thing, if they really want to put time and effort in it: a personal "tape" with music and personal stories and well wishes, man, that brings a smile on your face while laying there 😉 And once at home, if it is a person living on their own, I would say healthy ànd comfort food is so welcome as well. A scented candle. I guess all things that stimulate the sences you still have, maybe? Thanks you for this video, very usefull.

  4. I always thought I was a patient person. Until I had a liver transplant and became a "patient." I discovered I was NOT a patient person while being a patient. I was simply patient with others, but not with myself and my own body's healing process/time – including setbacks when all I wanted to do was move forward! Hard lesson to learn at age 38, but a valuable one. Praying for your continued peace and healing.

  5. Great ideas Jo!! The ice pack is sooo much better than putting ice in a bag. One surgery, the hospital used zip lock bags, and I thought wow, that's pretty bad. Lol

  6. Hey Jo I would suggest scooting up/down the stairs instead of hopping, that way you lessen the risk of falling and hurting your leg. I know after my amputation I pretty much spent my entire time on the floor scooting to places around my house and actually got to places pretty quick!😂 Also yea amputees(especially those with the loss of a lower limb) are very prone to skin problems especially with using a prosthesis. I remember I lost quite a bit of weight and ended up developing an ulcer on my stump because I didn't tell anyone that my prosthesis wasn't fitting right.

  7. Hey Jo, I use an rcup, it’s a really great leakproof 360 degree drinking travel cup. I have a tremor so use mine all the time, best cup ever! Keep being amazing 😊💖🙏

  8. Hello Jo! Hope you have a great weekend. I'm sorry about your sore leg. I hope it works out on its own. Even if it doesn't, you have been through a whole lot that has made you incredibly strong and you will get through this too. Even when you are alone on the couch recovering and feel like you can't do anything here's two facts to think about. 1, you ARE doing something awesome even sitting on the couch. You are really encouraging and helping others here. And 2, you are being thought about every day. Dixie and I wish you all the best and send you hugs and purrs. P.S. she has gone into heat so things just got interesting here, lol. P.S.S. did you name your cow?

  9. How awesome about KindNotes. This is a great idea. When I had my first shoulder surgery we were moving into a new place. The bedrooms were upstairs. I pulled a beach chair we had and just fell into it lol. I came home after surgery to moving lol. I slept in the chair while others moved us in. Once our couch was moved in I relocated. I still use my electric heater too, almost like the one you have. Arthritis is a pain. I have arthritis from surgery.

  10. hi!! loved the video! I think most people wouldn't really think about gifting someone a heating/cool pad, but its actually genius! it has purpose, doesn't go bad (like flowers) and its definitely given with a lot of thought in the person who receives it..!!

  11. I randomly came across your channel a few months ago. Seeing your notifications pop up is one of things I look forward to. I love your honesty and authentic ways you talk about human struggles and the importance of seeking support and taking care of yourself. Ps, I too love my blankets and snuggles with my pup. ❤️

  12. That little schnauzer cookie is so cute! AND HE’S FOOTLESS!!! I foresee an idea for footless gingerbread men Christmas gifts…

  13. Thank you for this video. It's full of great ideas! The Kind Notes seem like such a great item! So cute and helpful to read when you really need it. So awesome. EDIT:Omg the sleeping kitty is so interesting!

  14. Jo, Put a mini-microwave on top of that mini-frig and you can warm up coffee, socks full of rice, or even a frozen burrito.
    Glad to hear the doc does not think the swelling is a concern but sad to hear you need to be out of socket for a while.
    Shrinker time maybe?

  15. Hey Jo, those are some really great ideas. I don't know which is my favorite they are all so helpful. As a chronic pain patient, I can say all of them are so useful. I have a couple of more things to add to your list. A subscription to Netflix or Hulu. While a lot of people already have one not everyone does and when you are recovering from surgery or a major pain flair being able to binge watch something without distraction of ads etc can be very helpful. Another suggestion would be to bring a meal over or offering to help with grocery shopping or meal prep can be very. Even if you have a spouse or partner that can deal with this while you are unable it can still be helpful, caregivers need down time as well and they are often ignored or forgotten. Thanks for sharing your ideas and video. Soon your leg will heal and you will be making forward progress again!

  16. As I have spent most of my day crying because I absolutely cannot find one thing to be happy for. 3 weeks ago I had a total knee replacement, it is so hard being alone and feeling put aside has been the hardest part because I have 4 kids and I guess I just thought they would be more helpful. Guess the jokes on me for having these thoughts. I cannot say how helpful you have been, so positive and you have been such an inspiration to my beginning of a long recovery which will last 3 to 4 months. I am an inner spiritual person and have tried to find positive things to do and journal but I have been so depressed I can't even bring myself to do anything positive. I hate this and I just want my life back. Thank you for your help you have no idea how you have helped me. ❤❤😊 I wish someone knew about the kindnotes for me I think that concept is so cool. Heck I haven't even gotten a flower picked from a field or an offer for dinner. I don't mean to be so sad but I don't think people realize how hard the recovery process can be, the survey is the easy part. Xoxo thanks again

  17. Great recommendations Jo. Sending hugs and prayers that your leg heals quickly and no further surgery is needed!! 🤗🙏🏻

  18. I have chronic neck pain and migraines and I need another ice pack or two to rotate. I have one that is blue gel that doesn't freeze solid/hard and I need more like it! I will check the link you have for the kind you like, thanks! I'm learning Feldinkrais method to help my neck, maybe something for you to look into as well.

  19. The kind notes look amazing. I would give it to my mom, who is a caregiver for my grandmother and was for my grandfather until Dec 8th when he passed away.

  20. Oh, that's a bummer about the delay. I guess the Universe wants to remind you again that patience is a virtue (I know you've had a lot of practice with that…). Just breathe, and imagine the best possible outcome. On another note, watching Sadie chomp her ball is so satisfying 😊💕

  21. I've got the same brand heating pad in the XXL model. It's a great thing! Have never been able to get into audio books, I can't seem to sit and do nothing but listen. I either get bored and fall asleep or I do something and lose my concentration on the audio book. When I was recovering from the nephrectomy my Kindle was in hand hours after surgery. I probably read the same page, chapter, etc. for a couple of days but it helped me hold it together. 4 days with nothing by mouth. Not even ice chips. Kindle was amazing.
    Hope the leg gets better soon!!

  22. My mom struggles with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and neuropathy. The kind notes would be wonderful. What a cool gift.

  23. I am so thankful for your videos. I have two more months of physical therapy before I have a pretty scary surgery. You really help me feel less anxious.

  24. Hi Jo, have you ever seen the "iWalk" knee crutches, I wonder if you might be able to use one until you're able to use your prosthetic leg again. I have seen videos of below the knee amputees using them for getting up at night or just around the house when they don't want to put on their prosthetic. It might be worth looking into. Hope your leg feels better soon!

  25. Hi Jo, I hope everything is going ok with you, It looks like you aren't in too much pain in this video which makes me happy, I also noticed we have another thing in common we ue the PureRelief XL King Size 12×24 Heating pad, i bought 3 of each because i use them everyday,all day long sometimes on 1 just to keep the muscles in my back loose, i also have 3 of the PureRelef XXL Ultra-Wide 20×24 Heating pads.

    Anyway,i have some ideas for your YouTube channels, please get in touch with me when you can on Facebook. All my love to you Jo, my good friend, Send my love to Sadie & the other animals <3 Take care my good friend Jo!

  26. your progres might have stopped now for a bit due to thee swollen leg, and that is really frustrating. but you are not going backwards and thats a good thing. i hope it gets well soon 🙂

  27. Isn't it amazing how excited we get when we find a quality ice pack and/or heating pad? Haha! I never thought that my life would be this way. Thank you for all of your fantastic suggestions. I have had many surgeries myself, and I know that quality post-op products are a must. Safety and an attempt for even a bit of pain relief…..ugh! It can be overwhelming. Thank you for sharing your story. We're stronger when we help each other.

  28. Hope everything is on the right way now! That that thing in your leg is on its way to disappear. I was wondering too if your dogs have reacted on your new self?

  29. Dec 27th I had knee surgery. It was bad at first I expected that . But to still be hurting so bad and therphy hurting so much it almost makes me sick has been bad . I'm still on pain meds but they aren't working much anymore. My whole right leg hurts , throbs and just hurts. My left leg is hurting/sore for taking up what might right leg cant . Its miserable to not be able to get up and do whatever. And I'm not one that asks people to help .

  30. Hi Jo, I’d like to discuss a business inquiry in regards to your channel. Is there an e-mail address where I can reach you? Thanks!

  31. Those kind notes are adorable! I have some friends who struggle with depression and anxiety, as well as myself, these would be a great gift for them. I am having surgery in 4 days and these are great suggestions, going to look into those ice packs! Thanks!

  32. Jo, those are great ideas. With having back surgery and permanent nerve damage, a few things I got from friends were : dinners, short visits, phone calls. Human connections helped me so much. Starting a new hobby that isn't messy or takes a lot of space. Mine was learning to crochet. Thanks for your update. I pray that your leg will improve without requiring another surgery. 😊

  33. I just found your channel and I love it. I'm not an amputee.. but I do suffer from chronic pain. And I hate it so much.. and I never thought having chronic pain would lead to having bad mental health.. never thought my thoughts would lead me to want to end my life.
    Thank you for being awesome.

  34. For coffee addictions when you’re stuck in one place? Try an electric kettle and a French press. The added bonus is you can also use the electric kettle for stuff like tea or noodles. Another nice gift you can give to someone who you know is going to be laid up long term is a bed lounger. Couches aren’t great support when you lay on them and beds aren’t great support when you sit on them. Bed loungers go a long way toward solving the second problem (neck and back support, what a concept).

  35. My best friend and I had surgery around the same time, me for my knee, her for her ankle. Both of us had very different surgeries and recovery time, but both of us spent a large amount of time in pain on the couch, and it would have been amazing to have something like this then.

  36. Audio books are such a great idea, I wish I had something like that in hospital, the TV drove me NUTS !! and as you said, books were challenging.
    and those cards were cute too, my daughter talked about making something similar.. writing good things that happen on post it notes and putting it in a jar, when you feel down.. open the jar and read a good memory.
    im a new LBKA so i feel your pain with having to stay off your leg when things flare up. Hope it gets better soon <3

  37. I had emergency surgery over the summer (ruptured appendix) and was off work for 1 month. I’m a bookish person, but like you was so ZONKED (Thankyou nauseating medications!!).

    One of my favourite gifts was

    A) a bottle of Ribena cordial my brother brought to the hospital because Leeds tap water sucks
    B) my friend knew I was struggling with reading so got me an amazon voucher for e-books, movies etc. I actually bought a fire stick with it so I could watch Netflix in my bed at home.

    Lots of love x x

  38. I've checked out your channel and I think that you're one strong cookie! I subbed and I cannot wait to see more videos! May God bless you! 🙂

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